You may have noticed the title weekly web roundup hasn't been quite accurate. Instead, I post links haphazardly, either when I'm too lazy to concoct an original story of my own or more likely, because I have recently read something that I feel like I just can't keep to myself. In the interest of holding myself accountable, I have retitled the series Weekly (Wednesday) Web Roundups, so you can expect your weekly dose of the best of the Internet. Happy reading!
1. By now, you probably recognize both my perverse fascination with and criticism of The Bachelor series. But one of its most troubling aspects is the way in which it deals with sex, or more accurately, explicitly avoids mention of the “s” word, which is why the author’s investigation into Nick’s comments on After the Final Rose, in which he asks Andi why she would make love to him if she were not in love with him, is a must-read. (NY Mag)
2. In "The New Privilege: Denouncing Your Privilege," the article examines how and why someone with a pedigree that includes being a former Yale professor with two degrees from Columbia would criticize the very institution that fostered his success. The conclusion: the airing of guilt and being a “stealth snob.” (NY Mag)
3. The author of the Pultizer Prize-winning novel The Orphan Master’s Son Adam Johnson tells a compelling story about a humble sushi chef from Japan who managed to infiltrate the inner sanctum of North Korea, becoming the Dear Leader’s cook, confidant and court jester. Let’s just say he provides an account more detailed than what we’ve managed to glean from Dennis Rodmans journeys to Absurdistan. (GQ)
4. Oh how I love the New York Times. Oftentimes their cultural investigations are months too late (they should really get a millennial on staff), for example the emoji article printed in last week’s Sunday Styles, but this piece seems right on point in age of of #eatingfortheinsta, @youdidnoteatthat and tutorials on how to perfect the food Insta (apparently standing on your chair and asking your friends to use their flashlight app to perfect the lighting for your aerial shot is an acceptable behavior in a restaurant). (New York Times)
5. Would you judge a guy by his refrigerator? Better yet, what if he ordered...a Cosmopolitan? (New York Times)
6. I don’t know exactly what it is about this short story, but it makes me long for a place I’ve never been and appreciate what can be the routine of seeing someone new:
“The thing is,” Lily said, “we could and I’m sure it would feel good. And it’s not like sex is any big deal. But we’re old enough now to know some things, to know what happens next, to know that we have sex and then we text and e-mail for a bit, and then you come visit me, or I come visit you, and we start to get a little excited and talk about the thing to our friends, and then we get a little bored because our friends don’t really care, and we remember that we live in different places and think, Who the fuck are we kidding?, and then we realize that we were always just a little bored, and the e-mails and text messages taper off, and the one of us who’s a bit more invested feels hurt and starts giving the whole thing more weight than it deserves—because these things become referendums on our lives, right?—and so we drift apart and the thought of the other person arouses a slight bitterness or guilt, depending on who’s who at this point, and when the topic of the other person comes up we grit our teeth and say, ‘Yeah, I know him,’ or, ‘Yeah, I know her’—and all that for a few fucks that aren’t even very good, because we’re drunk and hardly know each other and aren’t all that into it anyway.” (The New Yorker)